Thread:Lord Of The Rings-Fan Girl/@comment-24149196-20140603152426/@comment-24149196-20150129152427

Justjackbros wrote: I woke up kinda bummed out...

Last night, I was hanging with a boy named Seth and my friend Madison. We were talking and she got a text from her sister saying something. Madison's face fell and she ran outside, Seth following. My mom said she didn't want me going outside that church (reasonz) so I stayed put, worrying what had happened. After about 9 minutes, Seth ran in and asked to come with him. My sister and her friends +Madison were sitting in the back of a truck crying. A boy that I knew as well a friend too my sister and a semi-friend to Madison had to quit school as of June 2014 because he got a life threatening sickness. He had been fighting all year and then that night he had passed away. Madison and meh sister were crying and lying down and I see my sister crying all the time so I could comfort her at home, but I've never seen Madison cry, and I wanted to comfort her, and Seth did too, but...We couldn't. Seh tried to get a hug and she didn't want one, so I didn't bother trying. ANNNYWAY, it turns out that boys death was a rumor, he's alive so I was able to comfort Madison via text. Well, she didn't believe me. Later she found out that he was indeed alive. But she didn't thank me.

Long story short (too late) I feel kinda like a bad friend. I was just standing there akwardly while people were hurting; I have strong emptahy so that made me pretty sad seeing them cry. You know? Well, any advice of what I can do to make me feel better? Oh... this is a hard one. In that situation, I probably would have said something like this: "That's terrible to hear. He was a good guy. I know he was a great friend to you. At least his suffering is over." Keep this next part in mind for any situation with an upset person: "You may want to be alone, but I want you to know that I'll be there for you. If you need ANYTHING, I'll be (insert somewhere close enough, but not too close)."

At this point, though, you have a few options. So far, I have two ideas, the first may involve lying and the second almost certainly does and will make you seem extremely, probably overly, sensitive: (1) You can tell her that you wanted to comfort her more, but you were too much in shock, or (2) make some sort of tribute to the guy, show it to her, and tell her that you made it when you thought he was dead. If neither fits you, tell me how willing you are to lie and I'll probably be able to think of something.